Talking to your Daughter About Sex – Is The Message Getting Through? – Part 1

Closing the Gap on Mother-Daughter Conversations about Sex

mom and daughterI was curious to know how conversations about sex were going between you and your daughter, so I did a survey after the summit was over that several of you responded to and I found two surveys on the topic.

They interviewed over 2000 mother-daughter pairs who live together and I have to tell you, the results were very eye opening and you probably won’t like what you hear….

I was surprised to learn 2 out of 3 girls admitted they are lying to their moms about sex. Do you know what the worst part is? The risky behaviors the girls are hiding:

  • Most of the girls in the survey said they’ve had sex without a condom at least once.
  • More than half of the girls admitted they didn’t use any birth control at all!
  • Twice as many girls had already had sex than their moms knew about

STDgraphicSex without a condom even once puts your daughter at risk for STDs. Did you know that one in four sexually active teens are diagnosed with an STD and half of sexually active young women have had an STD by age 25?

Some of the most common sexually transmitted diseases can have lifelong consequences. The most commonly diagnosed STD is the Human Papilloma Virus (HPV) which causes abnormal changes in the cervix cells putting your daughter at risk for cervical cancer. All of the treatments for cervical dysplasia are unpleasant and may put future fertility at risk.

The next most commonly diagnosed STD is Chlamydia and this can be present without symptoms and is responsible for a large percentage of the cases of infertility today.

The surveys found girls are a lot less comfortable talking to you about sex than you might think. The majority of girls have no intention of coming to you with concerns about sex and made it pretty clear that you’ll be the last to know when they decide to have sex.

Check out the video to learn more about how girls are missing the messages and how it puts your daughter at risk.



robinHave questions? Need support? Feel like you’ve missed the boat on some of these conversations with your daughter? Let’s chat! I’ve opened up a few spots in my calendar for FREE 30 minute Sex Communication Breakthrough Sessions and I invite you to apply for one today.

We can break through the discomfort together! We can change this. Let’s explore what is possible for you!




P.S. Have you caught your daughter lying to you about sex related issues? Or if your daughter is too young, did you hide risky sexual behaviors from your mom? Share your experience by commenting below!



Talking to your Daughter About Sex – Is The Message Getting Through? – Part 1 — 3 Comments

  1. I don’t feel my daughter has been lying, but she has always been uncomfortable when I’ve initiated any conversation about sex. (understandably awkward 🙂 So I am just interested in learning more tips on how to navigate this mother/daughter conversation to prepare her for the future. Thank you!

  2. Hi Robin,
    I have been doing a lot of work on healing my own views around sexuality and I have to say, having a 17 year old daughter is one big part of the reason. I had a multihour session recently on my own inner work on this topic and a few days later my daughter came to me expressing her own fears and shame around sex, and her deep desire for that to be different in our relationship. Until recently, I was raising her in the rigid and strident ways of Catholocism, just as I had been raised. What a gift to both of us this work is and having authentic conversations with our daughters is! Thank you for doing this work and leading the way for those of us who want more for our children. I would love some advice on talking to my teenage son about this topic too. Boys need just as much guidance as our girls. Blessings to you. Christina

    • Thanks Christina! I totally agree about the boys needing the guidance too! I’m glad that my work has offered a fresh perspective and opportunity for you and your daughter to have a deeper conversation on these topics.

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